My life after the 15 minutes…

 Today is Monday--day 3 of our first actual vacation without kids. We've had such a nice time and the kids are as having a blast and they even got to stay with Uncle Brian at his cool apartment in the city so they were super excited. So all is good.  Except my husband may have fallen in love with another.  Yesterday, we decided to drive up and spend a couple of hours on the beach in front of the Hotel del Coronado. If you aren't familiar, please google this place. It's absolutely gorgeous. We both started to get hungry so Bubs decided that he would walk up to the hotel and see if there was a place to get food. He's been trying to walk on the sand without his boot because he thinks if he goes slow it will mimic the strengthening exercises the doctor wanted him to do. I was like ok dude, but please take the boot as back up and phone so I could come help if needed but I knew it was going to take a while.  So I don't think this is a big secret but I generally am not att...

Bubs and I just had one of the most amazing days together, maybe since we've known each other. Perhaps to demonstrate how nice it was, I'm starting this at about 7:15 and he's still asleep. I haven't seen this man sleep past 6am in well over a decade. Not that I wore him out or anything (despite my best efforts), I just think he's able to relax a bit and it's so nice to see.  We are staying in a little coastal town called Imperial Beach and it is so cute. When we made plans to come to San Diego we looked around and decided we wanted to be close to the beach but really quiet and Imperial Beach is perfect. We walked around on Friday night and looked at the houses for sale and I started thinking out loud that maybe if we don't go for our "dream house" in Tucson, we can look into buying a vacation rental that we can also use. Usually, when I have a crazy idea like that, Mr. Spreadsheet reminds me off all the financial reasons why my latest manic manife...

Bubs and I are at the airport for our first trip together in a really, really long time. Today is our 11th wedding anniversary and he surprised me with tickets to San Diego to see my absolute favorite artist of all time, Kacey Musgraves. After that we are going to drive to Arizona to meet with a real estate agent and look at some houses and then he actually has his first drill weekend with his new unit before we'll head home late next Sunday.  When we do travel, I get to shut my brain off because Bubs handles everything. He knows the flights, he knows the gates, he knows the times, he knows the parking and transportation plans. I will usually get the biggest, girliest Starbucks I can and follow instructions. No coffee today but my plan was to spend the entire day cuddled up to him staring at his eyes because they are beautiful and so is the man behind them. But alas, on the way to the airport his bosses boss called him and said there was a true crisis that Bubs needed to get involv...

 Am I gangsta? No of course not, I'm a boring wife and mom from central Texas. However, on occasion  I'm pretty cunning and get some things done.  I had a therapy appointment on Tuesday so I had already planned on taking the morning off. Since I'm basically in love with our new baby sitter I decided to text her and see if maybe she was teaching at her Yoga studio. She texted me back right away and said that she was not on the schedule but she would see if someone would swap with her. I told her she didn't have to do that and she replied that she really enjoyed talking with me so she was happy to check. This girl knows how to make me feel special! She texted back about 10 minutes later saying she had swapped with a girl and she would be teaching the 10am class, which worked perfect with my appointment.  Therapy went great and I had a little bit of time to kill so I drove over to the Yoga studio and see if they'd let me in early to change and just hang out. Evie was a...

Your little shot was OK Bubs, I give you a C+, but you're not as good as you think you are.  When we were 17, I was so ready for sex that I could hardly contain myself. I know I told the story on reddit about how I had planned on giving it up on our trip to the ranch but a certain moron ended up getting us lost. So any amorous feelings that day were replaced with fear that I was going to be eaten by coyotes. What I didn't say on reddit was that was the second time in just a matter of a few weeks that my idiot boyfriend (now husband, ughhhh what was I thinking?) managed to mess up with a very willing girlfriend.  Ever since we were little my Dad's family has always done a week long trip to somewhere along the gulf coast. That year, it was going to be Spring Break in Orange Beach. For months I begged my parents to let Bubs come with us. At first it was absolutely not but when one of my boy cousins had to drop out and there was a bed for Bubs in my uncle's condo so they re...

 It's Monday and because our lives are never normal, Bubs is driving over to pick up the kids from his mom's house. While he's doing that, I've going to fire the salvo in the "embarrassment war" of 2024 and hopefully it's good enough that "Mr. Laugh at his poor wife" knows that I have a lot more dirt on him that he has on me.  Last night we were about to engage in some adult activities when we heard "mom your door is locked, I'm going to throw up" followed by the sounds of projectile vomiting all up and down our hallway. The other kid apparently had already clogged their toilet so our poor little was trying to get into our bathroom but was too late.  Because of the timing and certain things being in certain places and because I had shocked facial expressions and asked him for help, Bubs thought it was one of the funniest things he'd ever seen. I wanted to strangle him as I was wiping my kids' heads with cool wash clothes whi...

 Ok so as if I wasn't feeling guilty enough about the way I acted on Friday and Saturday. This morning, our son was out front playing with his cousins and came running in the house saying Evie had just stopped by the house with a small gift for he and his sister and thank you card for us. The card read: Danielle and Bubs (but she used is real name),  Thank you so much for inviting me into your family. You and your kids made me feel so welcome that I quickly felt like we were old friends—even if I was only there for one night. I had such a great time with your adorable children and would love to sit for them anytime you need someone. You both were so kind, and it warms my heart that you trusted me with your kids. If you’re okay with it, I would love to take A (our daughter) to her Jiu-jitsu practice on a Wednesday. I’ve always wanted to try it, and her enthusiasm for the sport really got me excited. I don’t want T (our son)  to feel left out, so I’d be happy to take him to...

 So to get it out of the way, one of the things I miss most about posting on reddit was that it was so much more interactive. I loved reading comments (well the positive ones anyways) and I loved chatting with everyone, even if the messages were short. This blog site makes that so much more difficult because I don't get any notification that people are commenting and when I do see them I can't reply from the comments page. I'm still enjoying posting here but I wish it were as quick and easy to interact as it was on reddit. Yesterday and today are events where I would love to get some thoughts and I'm hoping since I'm asking for your inputs, I can use this as a test run to see how to set up a pattern to check and respond to comments.  One of the things we are going to try to do in the next few months is get our kids used to having babysitters that aren't family members. Bubs and I have made a commitment that even after we move, we are going to continue to do more...

I've mentioned this often but our current house is within steps of nearly all of my family. My parents live right behind us, my younger sister lives two houses away on our right and my oldest sister is just a little bit further on our left. I think somewhat naturally our house has become the "party house." It's even more so because when my husband's grandparents owned the house, they had a pool installed. Today is one of those days that I love and hate. We are hosting a 3 kid family birthday party for the kids who have late August and September birthdays. I love hosting, I love the fun we have, I love seeing my family but no matter what it seems like we get caught holding the bag for a lot of the prep and clean up. Not to say my family isn't helpful and they won't jump in to help when we ask but sometimes it's just easier to get it done than make all the calls and texts asking people to pitch in.  When Bubs got hurt on Monday, I made it very clear to m...

 So you know we are insanely busy right? You know that we work full time jobs, we have two kids in schools and both have a plethora of activities going on. You may also know that we will be moving soon and we are not only looking for a new place to live, we are slowly getting our current house ready to rent to my sister in law. If you're familiar with our story you may also know that I am almost 8 weeks pregnant with our third kid. We also have nearly endless family obligations and we are hosting a combined birthday party for 3 at our house this weekend.  My sun literally rises and sets with my husband.  I have been madly in love with him for over 19 years now. I still get butterflies every time I see him and hearing him come in the house after he's been out is a sound of pure joy to me. I am so physically attracted to him that I often feel the urge to bite him. I say its because I can never be quite close enough to him but our therapist describes it as "affection aggress...