My Macbook took a bath in milk, I lost my blogger password--and came out of it with a great new hairstyle and stylist.
Since I started yapping on the internet back in July, I think this past week was probably the longest time between my boring updates! Please believe me when I say it wasn't because I'd run out of things to say--that will never happen! I could talk to a blank wall about nothing for hours (or so my dad used to say).
My last post was New Years Eve--and we had an amazing New Years in our new home. Both the kids and my niece made it to midnight and were very excited to light off the illegal fireworks that my husband had bought them right before we crossed the border into Arizona on our drive. To this day, my husband has a nice scar right up his wrist from a burn he received while engaged in a "firework battle" with his "friends" when he was 10 years old. That's the man I chose to procreate with. I was horrified the entire time and I made my niece promise not to tell my sister unless she was directly asked--she would have been more upset than I was. My husband has this saying that it's ok for kids to do dangerous things as long as they are doing it smartly. I have to say he did supervise them closely and the kids had an absolute blast and we still had a collective 30 kid fingers when the night was done. And what an introduction we made to the neighborhood. We've waved to them but somehow I'm not surprised no one has come to said hello after we rattled the entire neighborhood on our 4th night in the house.
On Friday, my son and I took my niece to the airport. It was a pretty sad moment as her departure made moving seem all the more real. I absolutely adore her and after some thought, I may end up missing her more than I do my sisters. She fell in love with Arizona (well probably more the 8th grade boy who competes in nationwide ninja warrior contests that we see running around the neighborhood and doing the obstacles in his back yard) and she plans on asking her mom if she can come live with us. I would be totally up for it as I loved having her here but I can't see any way that my sister would allow it. She was super jazzed to fly by herself and even had to make a connection but she made it all the way back home like a champ.
When I got home from the airport, I got the wonderful news that my daughter had spilled a giant glass of milk all over my Macbook. It wasn't her fault and usually I wouldn't leave it on the kitchen table but since we still aren't totally moved in yet, the table has become my desk. It was originally issued to me by my school, maybe 4 years ago and one of the nicest things the district did is let me buy it from them on my way out. I've used it for nearly everything, personal and school for since I got it so it had everything on it. Thankfully, I'm pretty adept at saving things to my various google drives and all that info is safe but there are a lot of pics and random things that I really wanted to keep, hence buying it from the district. But it is totally gone, it won't boot, it won't take power--it is completely dead. But along with that, I had no idea that I didn't have the password to this gmail and blogger account because I guess I never logged out and I'd never synced this profile to my phone or one of Bub's computers.
It was actually pretty scary because I really do feel attached to all of you and I knew that if I lose this account, then the story of Dani and Bubs on the internet is likely gone forever. I would probably create another account and keep blogging because it is such a nice release for me but I wouldn't want to speculate that people would be able to find me again. It was actually quite depressing for a while. I tried every password I could think of that I may use but none worked. It got to the point where I was worried that if I tried it too many times, google would lock me out. I'd made an appointment with the Apple Store for Monday to see if there was anything they could do so I decided to wait until at least then before trying to log into this account again.
Monday was the kids' first day of school and my first day as an official stay at home mom. I took them to their schools, met their teachers and staff and was very impressed at their little school. It was as little hard to not flash my credentials as a former educator and administrator but my goal is to blend in with the other moms as teachers tend to talk to other teachers a little differently and I don't want my kids to get any sort of special treatment. As soon as I dropped them off I headed up to the Apple Store for my appointment.
Tucson's Apple Store is in our very upscale outdoor mall--which is gorgeous by the way. For a girl from Texas, even the Hill Country, shopping in a mall nestled up against huge mountains was pretty impressive. And did I ever feel like a spoiled brat. Here I was cruising around the exclusive mall, on a Monday morning, in my Anthropologie maternity wear--while my husband was working to pay my bills. I think the only reason I wasn't the complete package is I was wearing my Vans tennis shoes and not heels and I didn't have the valley girl vocal fry like I imagine other spoiled housewives do. But man if it wasn't tempting to talk to people like "I'm hereeee to gattt my laptoppp fixeddddd..caaaaannnn you?"
I guess to cut to the chase, Apple said that my Macbook is gone and it's time to replace it. I asked about the data and they said they could try but wouldn't guarantee anything. I called my husband to ask him what I should do, he played his part of sugar daddy perfectly and told me to go ahead and buy a new Macbook while I was there. I told him there was no way I was going to buy a laptop on the spot and I want to go over specifications with him before rushing to buy something so big. I couldn't tell if he was relieved that I wasn't spending thousands of dollars on the fly or if he was disappointed that he couldn't spoil me. Either way--this new life is something I'm going to have to get used to. The great thing about being married to a guy who works in tech is that their lab has a ton of gadgets and tools and one of Bub's layout employees is going to try recover my data and he's pretty sure he can do it. It will thrill me if I can get some of those pics back.
I wandered around the mall for a bit like the kept woman I'd become and had a really nice time. I saw a hair salon so I texted Bubs to ask if maybe since I didn't buy the laptop, if I could see if they could fit me in. If I was acting like a spoiled wife shopping on a Monday morning, well the trip wouldn't be complete without getting my hair done up nice! He that he would be honored to treat me to a new fresh haircut. The girl was so sweet and said she could get me in about half an hour which worked great.
I've talked a bit about my hair before. First things first, I am blonde. As natural as a blonde can be. Unlike most people who are born blonde and gradually get darker as they age, I am as yellow haired as I've always been. My mom likens me and my little sister's hair to "corn silk" as it is blonde, straight, fine and nearly unmanageable if I don't keep it brushed. I have exactly two hair styles that I use on a regular basis; down and a pony tail--90% of the time it's the later. I've always been so jealous of girls who can curl their hair in these full body hair-dos that perfectly frame their face and have bouncy curls that move up and down as they saunter. When I worked at Hooters, I had a routine of basically burning the shit out of my hair with a curling iron then using literal bottles of hair spray to try and make it stay--and even then I was very lucky if I could get the curls to last one shift. I ended up damaging it so bad, I had to get it cut into a bob and have pretty much never attempted to curl my hair again--save for random occasions when I have someone more knowledge helping me out for a night out.
Well my new hairstylist (or as I call her, friend for life) introduced me to the magic of the Dyson Air Wrap, a special brand of hair spray made for hair just like mine and a specific cut that allows the Air Wrap to do it's magic. I'd heard of the Air Wrap before but couldn't imagine it was worth the cost. That hair appointment was life changing. Not only did I get to sit and talk with a bunch of other spoiled wives, I walked out of there with a hairstyle that would have made teenage Dani fall over in disbelief. When I was a kid, I spent hours sobbing because my hair sucked so bad. My new stylist had me completely transformed within an hour and I fell in love with it. I facetimed my little sister and she about fell over and our first stop as soon as she visits will be to get her hair done. I was on the Amazon app before I even left the parking lot and my late Christmas present to myself is my amazing Dyson Air Wrap. Of course this isn't a permanent thing and it will take some work to get my hair to do that again but at least I have the tools, knowledge and person who can help me out any time I need it. Bubs about passed out when he saw me that evening--and when he saw how much an Air Wrap costs. I guess we are both going to have to get used to this new lifestyle. But day one of being a spoiled stay at home mom was a massive win. The rest of the week wasn't bad either.
So obviously, I'm on my blog again. I logged into the associated email account and saw that a lot of you have emailed me! I promise I will get back to all of you, I just wanted to get a "proof of life" post up so people don't think anything happened to me. Basically what happened is that I was unpacking boxes I ran across the most random little folded scrap of paper that I had to have packed away for some reason. I guess when I had started this account I had jotted down the password and somehow the paper ended up getting packed up with the "non urgent" stuff from Bub's desk. I instantly knew what it was and here I am!
I am so thrilled from so much that has happened this week! But most of all thrilled that I can keep talking to all of you! I haven't forgotten about all the special requests people have asked of me and I promise I'll get to those too!
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ReplyDeleteGlad you have been reunited with your account.
ReplyDeleteMy wife and I are having a week’s break in the sun (away from our 23-year old daughter who is living at home - son is at uni)
“Reconnecting” has been great after a really hard 15 months of health and other issues
For the men amongst us, if/when it gets to that stage, we can both very highly recommend Viagra. 😂
Andrew, how is your wife doing with her new hip?
DeleteHi Andrew! So glad you are having fun! Where abouts are you? I have heard England is having a much warmer winter than usual but even still I imagine you are in one of the warmer countries on the continent? Bubs and I are tentatively planning our next big trip and I think we are going to go to Alaska but I'm voting that once new kid is old enough we do a trip to Europe...I can't even begin to tell you how much I want to see those Mediterranean beaches!
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DeleteSo the new hip is great. Everything else (her back, shoulder, neck, tiredness) could be better 😒. She's trying out multiple combinations of mattress toppers to see if she can find a working combination.
Thanks Dani, we were in Las Palmas de Gran Canaria (Spanish Island off the west coast of Africa) where the weather was low 20s (C) and we swam most days in open-air pools. There were lots of small kids and babies on our flights and all remarkably well behaved and content - very little crying.
We decided that even southern Europe was not going to be warm enough in January.
I'm not sure about that much warmer winter, but last week in particular was very cold here - we escaped snow and ice and my MIL (in Northern England) was effectively confined to her flat all week. The weather is due to be a bit warmer here this week.
I have no idea what the climate is like in South Central Texas or in Arizona. Do you even get snow?
When you do come to Europe, we have more than beaches - there are lots of interesting places to see, that appeal to all ages. I'm sure we Europeans can give you lots of recommendations
Glad to see you back, Dani. I hope the move is keeping you busy with lots of projects around the new home.
ReplyDeleteOn the subject of losing access to your on-line accounts, I was wondering if you still have access to that Reddit account you created back in September. Not that I would like to see you cross-posting these blog entries there -- I think it probably wouldn't be a good idea -- but I think your followers here are aware of that identity, so you could probably use your profile page there as a bulletin board if you had to.
I hope you also have a secret Reddit account. Before you were unhappily banned, you had become active in subs like BabyBumps, where you were establishing yourself as a "power user." I kind of felt bad for the community when they lost you.
Hey Walter! I had really put that account in the back of my mind so your comment led me to go check and yes, I still have access. I must have saved the username/password on this google chrome profile. I loved the BabyBumps community and I would love to start posting there again. My concern for a while was people telling me that reddit bans new accounts based on connecting subreddit activity to old banned accounts (I have no idea if this is true). With that I've been very cautious but I have to think that enough time has passed--I still understand so little about why we were banned and why Bubs new accounts were banned but his old accounts weren't so it's a little iffy on how active I want to be on reddit on that new account.
DeleteI never want to sound like I'm bragging but I thought I had a lot to offer that community too, I already have two kids, I was present at the birth of 5 nieces and nephews who I helped raise, I'm in my 30s with some working mom experience behind me. I even said all that in my ban appeal but I don't think a human ever looked at it. So frustrating.
That Reddit ban was almost certain related to your old stalker, and may have been directly instigated by your old stalker. You stopped letting him get under your skin and just kept blocking his new accounts, so he complained to Reddit and Reddit is known for taking the path of least resistance regarding complaints and banning accounts. I doubt it's anything more than that. I suspect the appeals (and denials - I've never heard of an appeal resulting in a reinstatement) are all automated. Again, easiest solution for Reddit.
DeleteA belated happy new year to you, and I am so glad you're settling in to your new home. You'll make it yours, I have absolute confidence in that. RIP to your old MacBook, but if it was time for a new one then I'm glad your husband is willing to buy one for you - and for the record, I don't buy fancy electronics without asking my own husband to weigh in on the specific purchase, because what I know about technology (unless it's an AAC device for my nonverbal or minimally verbal students) will fit into a thimble. A small, small thimble. My grandmother's thimble, and her hands were smaller than mine. Anyway, I hope you get all your data back (the tech wizards can work miracles most of the time), and I am glad you found what you needed to get back on your blog.
ReplyDeleteI offer you all my sympathy about baby fine hair - my own mother used to say something similar to me, that my hair was (and remains) as fine as spun silk. When I was under about 10 or 12 I thought it was a compliment - nope. Mine is fine, thin, and not a lot of it, and it's been the bane of my existence since the Farrah Fawcett years (loooong before you were born), when the full feathered look for me was way beyond the ability of any dryer then in existence, any curling iron, and any hairspray. My mother used (I believe) and entire jar of Dippety Doo to get some fullness for an ice skating exhibition when I was around 10 years old (former - VERY former - figure skater, lots of passion for my sport and no talent whatsoever). Age has not improved the hair situation at all. My younger sister (the middle sister), on the other hand, has retained her luscious full heavy hair that I have envied since we were little kids. She has the hair, I have the skin (I am a skin care fanatic), and we joke that if someone could combine the two of us ...
Enjoy your Dyson! I loved my Dyson Air Wrap curling iron and miss it all the time - it is living in a Holiday Inn in Seattle, alas. The ONE time I didn't check the bathroom before leaving the hotel. Silly me. But Dyson hair products are among the best on the market and worth the expense for those of us whose tresses are not exactly our crowning glory. By the way, look into Drybar hair care products too - they make a fantastic line of products, including a detangler with heat protection (if you're using a regular curling iron or hot rollers) that has actually made a difference in my hair. On the pricier side but I've found the products worth the expense.
And enjoy being a stay-at-home mom for a while. I was either entirely (for a couple years) or mostly (for a few more years) a stay-at-home mom when my kids were little, and while I took a career hit I wouldn't trade those years for anything. Parenthood, like life, consists of long days and short years, but the years really are SO short and they grow up SO fast, and suddenly your oldest is married with his own house and you cannot for the life of you remember giving permission for him to grow up THIS much, THIS quickly. So revel in those long days, because they will be over before you know it. Your career will still be there - we need great teachers and that isn't going to change.
Wishing your family the happiest times in this new year. Mama Wolf