Dropping Bubs off and a Brian and Evie update.
So my loving husband is off on his first solo trip in a really long time. I am just back from dropping him off at the airport and I sobbed like a baby the entire time. We had gotten so comfortable in our routine in recent weeks and I am really going to miss him. He'll be back the Tuesday before Thanksgiving so this is nothing compared to his two six month deployments that he's had to do. But I've gotten so used to getting home at about 1, making him lunch and getting a smack Don Draper'esque smack on the butt as he kicks me out of his office so he can work for the rest of the afternoon.
The really good news is that he's officially working for his new boss in Tucson and I can't even begin to describe how nice it's been to not have him shoot out of the bed at 3 in the morning because some factory in Asia messed up a production run. His new boss's wife even sent me (yes me, the wife) flowers welcoming us (yes, us) to the team with a list of Tucson area Ob/Gyns and an invitation to dinner when we move in December. Same corporation, completely different vibes. Bubs also has to do a Reserve weekend while he's there and he's very optimistic the flight surgeon will clear him to fly by the time he has to be in the unit again in December or January. Of course, I despise flying but he's so excited to get back in the air again so I guess I'm happy for him.
Since he's gone and my kids are super stoked to be hanging out with Oma and Opa (Bub's parents) I'm just a little lonely so I figured I'd talk to you all! Lucky you!
I can't believe it has been months now since I introduced you all to Evie (or as she wants to be called now, Genevieve--because Brian likes it better) but I just helped them move into an apartment together. Now, don't get me wrong, I am a 100% believer in soul mates, true romance, taking huge leaps for love, etc., etc. but even I kind of want to throw a little cold water on the two jackrabbits in heat!
I was looking back through the blogs and I introduced you all to Evie (sorry, Genevieve) on September 21st, that was a Saturday. We had Genevieve over for dinner that following Tuesday so I could introduce the two of them. By my back of the napkin math, that's about six weeks of knowing each other and they are moving in together.
They claim to be "taking it slow" and they are moving in "for convenience" since his lease ran out and Evie's roommate offered her a chance to get out of their shared lease. My sisters and I went to help them move some stuff in on Friday and the two horn dogs could not have ushered us out fast enough after everything was in place. We had hoped to sit down to a nice dinner and welcome Evie to the family...they no doubt "christened" every room while the sisters got McDonalds on the way home.
I adore Genevieve and the biggest problem I'm having is explaining to my son (who if you remember fell in love with Evie and her very exposed butt) is that he's not Uncle Brian's competition and he will get his own Evie some day and feelings of jealousy are normal. She is literally one of the sweetest and most thoughtful people I have ever met, she's brilliant and she's going to be an amazing teacher someday. It doesn't hurt that she's a extremely fit Yoga teacher who looks like a Victoria's Secret model.
The part that I am always going to be worried about with my brother is...my brother. The good news is that by all appearances he seems to be very smitten with Evie. Even more so than he was with his former girlfriend that broke up with him last summer. But at the same time, he's always been very lucky with the ladies and it's never taken him much effort if he wants to stray. As a matter of fact, I just ran into one of his high school/early college girlfriends who he cheated on at least 10 times--and that's a very generous estimate in his favor. She didn't overtly ask me for his new number, but had I given it to her, I have no doubt that she would have been on the road that very night in an attempt to rekindle the old flame. Because I introduced Evie and Brian, and she was at such a vulnerable spot when I did it, it would crush me if he hurt her like he has some of his past girlfriends.
One thing about sibling patterns is they never change. Brian is 8 years younger than me and 6 years younger than my younger sister so we grew up alternatively doting on him and beating the crap out of him--but the one thing we absolutely taught him is how to be charming to get what he wants from women. All three of us separately took him aside on Friday and explained how much we loved Evie, we think he's moving a little too fast and we hope that he's not using age and experience to pressuring her to take a step that she's not quite ready for (he's 24, she's 21). He assured all of us that she's the one who suggested moving in, that he's madly in love with her and she will make a perfect fit into our family. I know in the moment he's sincere...100% sincere and I do believe that he loves Evie and she loves him. But then I'm reminded the same "kid" as a 15 year old convinced Bubs and I to drive him into the city to "meet a friend." What he didn't tell us was that the friend was a 19 year old girl he met on Tinder who he'd convinced he was a grad student. I guess they were even because she didn't tell Brian that she had a boyfriend who had no issues slapping around a 15 year old boy who just so happened to have his pants around his ankles in a compromising position when boyfriend surprised girlfriend after work. I really, really hope he's matured. Part of me thinks he has, part of me remembers screaming at him on that drive back from the city that he could have been killed for being so stupid--and the smug teenage smile that just wouldn't go away no matter how much I yelled at him.
So again--I guess this turned into a venting blog! I really love the both of them and I want it to work but probably a good time to just get some of these feelings out there.
I can hear the car pulling into the driveway--so its time for the tradition of the kids showing me the hundreds of dollars worth of gifts they were able to acquire at the expense of Bub's parents. Me admonishing them that the kids don't need all the stuff and Bub's mom promising me it won't happen again. Of course I know it will. Well just looked out my front window and my 8 year old daughter is wearing makeup. Discussion commencing. Have a great week everyone!
Wow! That was quick. There's something about your family where gravitating to the living quicklyand dangerously is a pattern. I sure hope Brian takes this seriously and slow. I hope he reminds himself of the mistakes of the past and desires to dedicate himself to Genevieve. I would hate for him to break yet another heart.
ReplyDeleteI seem to remember you posting a few weeks ago about your concern that your brother would try to move too fast for sweet Genevieve. From an outside perspective, it looks like Brian may have met his match. It’s not mutually exclusive for Genevieve to be both extra sweet and a true gangsta!
ReplyDeleteI was just wondering how that storyline was going.
ReplyDeleteGonna be totally honest here. Sex and desire tests a man's moral fiber maybe more than anything else. Truly! Not gonna say I'm a saint and there are many ways to stray but how a man handles his sexuality tells you pretty much about his charachter . That doesn't mean he can't be a good or at least decent president :-).
Your brother was young when he behaved like that but on the other hand he behaved like a total douchebag and unfortunately people in general don't change that very much unless very drastic things happend. Cheating on someone that many times is really low. How has he justified it? I understand why you are sceptical. I would not be happy with my daughters dating anyone with a recent trackrecord like that.
On the other hand his last girlsfriend seems to have made him a more decent person. Did we get a definitive explanation as to why it ended. I hope he's grown and of course my reasoning is tainted by bitterness that men who treat women like that are successfull with them but I think I've grown out of that bitternes as much as you can.
Agree with those who feel that the two young lovebirds moved to cohabitation pretty quickly, and I hope that Brian has matured enough to remain loyal to a woman who's clearly both beautiful enough and charming enough to have the choice of many men who will be happy to give her the world. That they're both so young would have bothered me once upon a time simply because at their ages I was most certainly NOT sufficiently mature for a committed relationship. But my son and DIL began dating at age 19, married at age 23, and are happy and committed and continue to be perfect for each other. With luck, Brian played the field long enough to know what else is out there and is choosing Evie, and Evie is strong enough to be clear with Brian that she doesn't tolerate wandering eyes. I do think this moved pretty quickly, but I wish them all the best. In any event, Ms. Gangsta, all you did was make (determinedly make) the introduction - after that the choices were theirs to make, and they're making the choices. You've done your part. Now all you can do is hope it works out as well as everyone would like it to work out.
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